I have been with my boyfriend for over five years now. Our sex life has been great and I could not ask for more. Every time we are together, it is a guarantee that we will end up in bed. Our libidos match and we enjoy almost everything in bed. We have tried threesomes with escorts, and we found that escorts in London were the best for this. We are both big funs of oral sex, a little bit of role play now and then and when we shag, we do it in a dozen possible positions- missionary, doggie… you name it and we have probably tried it. He is the most sexually compatible partner I have ever had, and I am a thirty one year old woman. If I had been asked about a month ago if there was anything my boyfriend and I had not tried in bed, I would have confidently answered with a no. But my boyfriend tends to disagree. He obviously has other ideas… He just asked me for anal sex!
For the past one month, he has been asking for it incessantly. In fact, not a day passes without him bringing this topic up. At first, I thought that he was only joking and I brushed him off by saying,” Hell no! That is so gay!” I even went further and explained to him that as much as I believe that everyone should have whatever floats their boat, as long as they are hurting no one, anal sex was simply not for me. I even gave him a my permission to find a consenting croydon escorts to have anal sex. I told him in no uncertain terms that I was simply not into it. I mean, I may be a freak in bed and there are probably a million things I would do in pursuit of an orgasm but anal does not simply make it to the list. I understand why the thought of a dick up the bum may be appealing and fulfilling when done between men but to a woman, I just do not get the appeal (or more specifically, I did not at that time). I also did not want to do something I did not fully want to, just to make him happy. I also did not want him to be left unsatisfied.
What I did not understand is that before then, he really seemed satisfied with everything we did in bed. The idea of anal sex did not get to him until one of his buddies got it from his girl and he started bragging about it to his boy squad. What should I do? It has gotten so extremely hard for us to maintain our previous connection. It is this fear that our relationship was on the verge of failing if I did not give in to his request that I decided to confide to one of my closest girlfriends about my dilemma.
If I had expected her to discourage me from giving it a try, then I was totally mistaken. Turns out that she and her boyfriend have been going on at for over half the time they have dated. She told me that she had also been completely spooked out when her boyfriend had first broached this topic to her. She even went ahead and reassured me that I had nothing to worry about and that this was just another milestone for our relationship. Stated below are some of the things she advised I do should I decide to give anal sex a try.
-Prepare thoroughly by ensuring that I am properly clean “down there”. This, she told me, could be taken care of by five minutes of douching!
-Try and practice with some sex toys before the actual act with my man. She insisted that this would help me train my sphincter muscles to relax on command.
-To use lots of lube since the anus has no means of self-lubricating. I have also done some research on this and I can completely understand why she highly advised not to go at it “dry”.
-To fully relax during the act and advise my boyfriend to be slow and patient.
As I am writing this, I am now more confident that although our sex life has never been dull, anal sex may serve to spice up things a little bit. If it turns out that I do not enjoy it, then I at least would be contented that I had given it a try. After all, I have never been shy when it comes to trying out new things!