We all have fantasies. As long as you have a sane mind and a functioning brain, there is always something that tops up in your wildest dreams. For me, as long as I can remember, my fantasy has always been to visit a swingers club. Unusual, yes, and a little bit weird, but regardless, it is a fantasy I have and is totally valid. Although I cannot precisely point the time when this fantasy was born, it must have sprouted out during the early years of my marriage life.
My wife and I have been married for seven years and things in bed have not always been great. It had even reached a point where our sex life was almost non-existent. Although we still loved each other, and deeply, the desire to have sex with one another was no longer there. To save our marriage, we both decided to visit a sex and marriage counsellor. Because our libidos were both strong, the counsellor told us that our issue went beyond the physical and that we had to try things in bed that we had previously not tried. She suggested role play, the use of sex toys, booking sexy escorts in London and mutual masturbation among others. She went ahead and suggested that if none of those things worked, we should try visiting a swingers club as our last resort.
Even though our sex life is now back on course and great, the idea of visiting swingers club has always been on my mind since it was first suggested. I have not yet broached this subject with my wife for fear that she may not be on board. I also do not want to give her any ideas that I am planning to cheat on her. Last summer, I attended a conference in London and while there, I met and befriended a Mr. Forster. The conference lasted for a week and since Mr. Forster was a Londoner, and his home was just from across the street from where the conference was being held, he invited me over for dinner one evening. He was a married and he and his wife had been together for a good twenty years! Over the course of the meal, we made small talk on topics related to our jobs, the economy and the weather. As the time moved on, we embarked on topics which were more sensitive and personal, such as sex and marriage. It was at this point that I learnt that both Mr. Forster and his wife were card-carrying members of a nearby swingers club. Having in mind that I had always toyed with the idea of personally visiting a swingers club, my curiosity peaked and I probed. I listened as the Forsters narrated to me how joining a singers club had saved their marriage from collapsing, at a point when everything else was totally hopeless. This deeply resonated with me because my own marriage had at one time reached that point. I had always wanted to hear first-hand experiences from someone who had visited a swingers club before, and this sounded just like the perfect opportunity for me. They told me about the thrills they had experienced and enjoyed by extending their intimacy beyond the walls of their bedroom. They told me how they had learnt on how to properly please and satisfy each other by watching as other people “took care” of one of them. This, as they told me, had helped them learn to appreciate each other more. The other couples they had interacted with at the club had taught them a dozen different tricks and new ways when it came to matters of the bedroom. This, according to them, had gone a very long way in spicing up their sex life.
As I learnt that a swingers club provides an open space where couple can swap partners and engage in everything without judgment and just experience pleasure, the desire for me to visit a swingers club reached an all-time high. With so many like-minded couples who have convened for the same purpose, a swingers club is the ideal place for people who want a taste for variety! As I pen this, I am still figuring out ways of convincing my wife to accompany me in visiting one. She is an open-minded woman and I am pretty sure that she would be a willing participant in helping me realize this fantasy of fine!